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June 22, 2016 - No Comments!

Just Like Clockwork

TalkLife Moderator Alice talks about how difficult suicide can be but how important it is that we talk about it.

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“Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.” - Hellen Keller

Friendship is, in my opinion, one of the simplest and truest pleasures we can experience. Having been a TalkLife user for almost four years now, I have had plenty of opportunities to meet people, and to make some truly amazing friends. I also wholeheartedly believe that friends become just as important as family. They are often the ones who are holding our hands and walking with us through the dark.

Today I would like to talk about one particular friend. His name is Derrick. The reason I am talking about Derrick today, is because he passed away on the 22nd of June 2015. Derrick’s death was not an accident; it was a suicide. He was just 28 years old. He was engaged, to a beautiful young woman named Brittany; whom he met on TalkLife and loved very much. He also had a gorgeous British Bulldog named Hank. He loved music, particularly playing the guitar and photography. Read more

March 30, 2016 - 1 comment.

What to say when you don’t know what to say…

We’ve all been there right-you see someone who is having a really tough time, you want to try and help them but you’re not sure what to say. Maybe you're worried about saying the wrong thing, or making someone feel worse or perhaps you just can’t find the right words.

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So i’ve been chatting to some of you about this and have come up with a few thoughts about what to say when you don’t know what to say. Now these are just a few ideas and they might not appeal to you but it’s a starting point and if you have any other ideas please post them in the comments section!

We all love the reactions buttons on TalkLife right (same, OMG, support and hug) and for someone posting, seeing that people have reacted to their post can be really supportive. Have you ever thought about telling someone why you reacted though?!

“I’ve sent you a hug because I wanted to let you know I care”

“I’m feeling the same as you, I didn’t know what to say but I wanted to let you know”

Sometimes it’s great to ask a person a question-it can encourage them to open up and share more about how they are feeling which can be really helpful. Open questions are ones that don’t have a specific answer. Like these:

“How are you feeling?”, “What’s that like for you?”

You might also want to ask a question to see if someone wants to share a bit more information about what’s going on-again try and keep your questions quite open if you can, although this isn’t always possible and there are no rules!

Another way of being supportive is to summarise or reflect back someone's comment. It might sound strange but this can show someone that you have really heard and understood what they are saying. For example you could say something like this:

“Sounds like you’re feeling really upset that your mum isn’t listening to you-that must be hard”

“I can hear that you are feeling really sad at the moment and want to let you know i’m thinking of you”

Another great way to offer support is by short words of encouragement- ‘hang in there’, ‘thinking of you’, ‘sending you a hug’ are all great ways of showing someone you care!

Remember, you don’t have to try and solve other people’s problems and you don’t have to give advice, but just by showing someone that you are there and you care can make a huge difference. As long as you are trying to be supportive there isn’t really a right or a wrong thing to say and it’s very unlikely that anything you say would ever make anyone feel worse-we all appreciate it when someone responds to our post right?

Still feeling unsure? Here’s what some of your fellow TalkLifers had to say about it:

“If someone was nervous about commenting on a post I would ask them to think about how if feels when they get comments on their own posts. The feeling of not getting a comment is no-one's favorite feeling. A short comment saying nice words can help a lot of people”

“I would tell them not to be afraid. Tell them as long as you are trying to help them then say it. You might even save their life”

“If you don’t know what to say, you can say that! People want to be acknowledged and feel support, it can feel vulnerable to post something about ourselves, sometimes there aren’t words to help, but showing up is what’s most important.

“If you wanna help or give words of wisdom just go for it, that’s why we are on here!”

So next time you want to say something but don’t know what to say why don’t you give some of these techniques a try and let me know how you get on!

Jen x

 


If you haven’t heard of TalkLife, it’s where you find friends and a place to belong. There’s a huge community of people like you, who understand. Download for free on your Apple or Android device.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, and potentially at risk of self harm or suicide, it is important to seek professional help NOW. Click here for links to emergency help.

 

March 24, 2016 - No Comments!

TalkEaster-let’s get creative!

The long Easter weekend is here-hooray! To celebrate we want you get your creative juices flowing and get involved in our #EasterLife competition. We know that you are a creative bunch so for the next few days we want you to tap into your artistic side. We know that Easter means different things for everyone so share us what this holiday weekend means to you.

Whether it’s poetry, artwork, videos, photos or music-send it our way! Submit your entry by using the #EasterLife hashtag. You can use whatever social media platform you like to share as well as posting directly on Talklife-just don’t forget the hashtag!

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Of course no competition is complete without some awesome prizes- we are giving away a pair of Beats Audio Headphones for the winner and we each of the 5 runners up will receive a TalkLife T-shirt!!!

 

tshirtSubmit your entry by using #easterlife #talklife on photos, posts, tweets, or instagram by Monday 28th March at midnight (PST) to be in the running for a prize.  

You can check out all of the submissions here Good luck and we can’t wait to see what you come up with!


Jen and the TalkLife team.

 


If you haven’t heard of TalkLife, it’s where you find friends and a place to belong. There’s a huge community of people like you, who understand. Download for free on your Apple or Android device.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, and potentially at risk of self harm or suicide, it is important to seek professional help NOW. Click here for links to emergency help.

 

October 31, 2015 - No Comments!

“Everyday is Halloween, isn’t it? For some of us.” ~ Tim Burton.

For some people, it’s the best night of the year. A night where you can be anyone or anything you want. For others, it’s a night filled with fear and anxiety.

But there are some simple ways to look after yourself – and each other – this Halloween.

Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable

There’s a lot of pressure when it comes to your costume – especially for girls. From sexy cats and witches to sexy carrots and crayons (yes, they are actual costumes!) it can all feel a bit overwhelming.

If that’s not for you, don’t feel pressured! Dress as a pumpkin! Wrap yourself in TP and go as a Mummy. Or, if you’re feeling super lazy, just wear your normal clothes and draw two bite marks on your neck – instant freshly turned vampire! The only thing that matters is that you feel comfortable and happy. Don’t be like this dog that clearly hates its costume, its owner and its life!

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Tell your friends if you’re struggling

If you suffer from anxiety, the crowds and bustle of Halloween can be really unsettling. So talk to your friends about how you’re feeling and let them know how they can help. Or if you don’t think your friends will understand, the TalkLike community is always here to share their advice.

Take it easy

It’s easy to get carried away at Halloween parties. After all, there’s something about putting on a mask that makes people drop their guard. If you’re going to a party be sure to have fun, but stay within your limits or just stay off the hard stuff altogether.

Stay at home!

If the idea of going out at all scares you more than the idea of a vampire scratching at your window, then just stay in! Get some of your friends around and watch some scary movies together. Or curl up on your own with a spooky story – there’s no one way to have fun.

If you’ve got any tips and tricks for having fun on Halloween, let us know!

 

- Kim Curan, TalkLife


If you haven’t heard of TalkLife, it’s where you find friends and a place to belong. There’s a huge community of people like you, who understand. Download for free on your Apple or Android device.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, and potentially at risk of self harm or suicide, it is important to seek professional help NOW. Click here for links to emergency help.